There is a definitive “step-by-step” sequence of events in seducing a woman. There is like a chain of events to look at, and to keep sequenced in time.
The first phase of seducing a woman is getting yourself ready. You always need to be getting your mind clear and distinguishing what is stopping you. If there is a past rejection stopping you, you must get over it. You must get your mind clear, remember and celebrate your past victories, and get yourself into a peak performance state! No matter if it is on a coffee date, or whether you are going to say hi to a woman, or you are going to go for the first kiss, you are always going to be battling yourself and your own frame of mind.
The second phase of seducing a woman is interrupting her, and getting her attention. You must initiate with women, and it takes guts to do that. It takes guts to initiate the first kiss. It takes guts to initiate asking for her phone number and email address. It takes guts to initiate everything. And that is your job, and never fail to remember that it is your job, exclusively.
The third phase is the rapport phase, the romance-building phase. That is when you are having a conversational connection with somebody where she feels like you understand her, she feels like she understands you, and you just have a kind of nice flow of conversation.
The fourth phase is some type of physical connection. She sees you as a romantic potential and a romantic partner. It’s the “light sensuality.”
The fifth phase is getting into more of the sexual stuff. You started from getting yourself ready, interrupting her, developing rapport, to having her see you as a romantic and sensual possibility. Now you are crossing that line, you are initiating that next degree into light sexual contact.
During a typical interaction with a woman you are going to go through stages one through five over and over again. These phases happen both in and out of sequence. You are always going to come back to your state of mind and getting yourself prepped. You are always interrupting her on a deeper and deeper level. You go in and you are holding hands and you stop holding hands then you go back into the interruption phase. You are constantly going in as deep as you can go, and back-peddling. You might be making out and all of a sudden find yourself back in the rapport-building phase. A date is unpredictable. You may be making out one minute and the next minute you are just talking. You have to let that flow happen.
As you learn the flirting skills, and practice them with women, you will probably find it helpful to remember the phases of seducing a woman.
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Ron Louis and David Copeland are dating coaches and authors of the best selling “How to Succeed with Women” and the creators of Seduction Techniques |
