It’s critically important to physically touch a woman early on in a seduction, sometimes referred to as “kino”. Here’s the scientific explanation of how and why it works. Then I’ll explain how to use touch to reliably get laid.
Touching a woman causes her body to release a powerful sex hormone called oxytocin. Oxytocin increases a woman’s testosterone levels, the hormone responsible for her sex drive. Oxytocin also causes her to feel a bonding with you and to feel good around you.
Even for a woman who “never feels like sex” and acts cold, a few touches can make her horny for sex. It doesn’t matter where or how much you touch her – even a small touch on the arm is enough to release oxytocin hormones into her body and warm her up to you.
What’s more, oxytocin gives her the desire to be touched even more, producing yet even more oxytocin – a reinforcing cycle of sex hormone escalation.
One other thing… this oxytocin touch response is MUCH more powerful for women than for men. Oxytocin requires estrogen to work. Without estrogen, it has no effect. And women have much more estrogen in their bodies than men. Ever notice how a woman you never noticed before touched you on the hand or shoulder and suddenly you started to think differently about her – in a sexual way? Well, in women the effect is 10 times stronger! Don’t underestimate how one or two well-placed touches can make her start thinking about you or even get her wet between the legs.
Okay, here is how to use this powerful scientific knowledge to get laid.
First, be the kind of guy who is comfortable touching women from the moment you meet them. Be a physical kind of person. Act as if touching a woman is a normal thing you do all the time and women will accept that. (If you start touching a woman all of a sudden after a few weeks, it will seem weird to her, so start from the very first time you meet her.)
Begin with small touches on the hands and arms to make her oxytocin hormones kick in. As you progress, play footsies with her under table. Take her hand when you walk together (don’t ask, just take it). Tell her to sit on your lap and stroke her thighs (again, don’t ask just do). The more you touch her in a playful take-charge way, the more she’ll want more touches and then even more. By the time you’re touching her nipples through her shirt the oxytocin hormones will be raging, shooting her testosterone-driven sex drive into the stratosphere.
Also, never ask a woman “Can I touch you?” It’s creepy. Don’t ask. Women like men of action, assuming you have some form of rapport with her.
Now here’s what you do with women who consider you to be “just a friend”. Let me tell you a quick story.
One woman I knew considered me “just a friend” and whatever I said to her didn’t seem to work.
Knowing the scientific certainty of her oxytocin response, I began to work my spell. At first, I touched her innocently on her arms and hands. No resistance. Soon I got more playful with her and would grab her by the waist and playfully wrestle her to the floor when she was being a brat. No resistance.
She kept telling me she only wanted to be friends, but her body was beginning to tell me another story. She invited me over to a sleepover with some of her other friends. I took the initiative and lay next to her in bed and neutralized any objection by telling her how much “I liked being friends” with her. I then proceeded to playfully tickle her. All the touching made her oxytocin and testosterone levels flood her body… and she was getting horny under the covers despite herself.
Pretty soon she was calling ME… and now that we’ve done the deed, her bonding feelings for me caused by the oxytocin are firmly entrenched. That’s the flip side of the oxytocin response – once she’s got her, your only problem will be keeping her at arms length!
Now get out there and put those hands to work.
By Derek Vitalio
Learn the Science of Seduction
