A couple of weeks ago on a Saturday night, I hit the night spot with my best buddy, Greg. It has been a while since we painted the town red. We thought it would be cool to check out the latest ‘in’ places, pick up some girls while we are out and about and see if there are any new pickup techniques that we can learn when we are hanging out.
We made our way to SOHO and got ourselves a nice spot with a good view of the dance floor and the entrance. We were seated next to a table of three hot looking girls. Not long after, a group of three guys took the table behind us. This trio caught my eye, one guy in the group to be exact.
What made this guy stand out is that he’s chubby unlike the other two who looked like they live in the gym. Besides that, the other two guys were good looking while chubby cheek is below average in the looks department. That sets him apart from the other two but what got my attention is that despite the obvious disadvantage in physical appearance, chubby cheek’s body language commands attention. Intrigued, I observed him.
Like every other guy in the club, the trio did a quick scan of the club to check out all the girls before settling down to guy talk. About ten minutes later, the two girls from the table next to ours, got up to adjourn to the wash room, leaving the third girl behind. Here is when things got interesting…
Mr. Chubby Cheeks got up from his seat, took his drink and approach the girl on the table next to ours. As expected, she looked surprised and at the same time guarded when he first approached her. But as he started the conversation rolling, her posture relaxed some what. Soon, he took one of the seats vacated by her girlfriend and started building a rapport with her.
He had her laughing in no time and she looked like she was genuinely having fun. When her friends return to their table, he continued talking to the girl and gave her his full attention instead of giving up his seat to them. Even when the two girls were seated, he still fixed his attention to this girl that he was talking to, pretty much ignoring them until this girl introduced the girls to him. When introduction was made, he took that opportunity to move his two friends from their table to the girls’ table.
This guy just proved that physical appearance takes a back seat to confidence when it comes to approaching girls. His two friends beat him hands down in the looks department but they lack the guts to approach the hot girls! What he lacks in physical appearance, he more than make up in the way he walks and talks… he is sure of himself and full of confidence and that is what ultimately attracted the girl!
By ignoring her girlfriends when they came back to the table, he’s telling her that she is important and he is focused on her and he’s real and not a player. He is telling her that she is the hottest girl in the room and that he is interested in her. This increases the attraction she feels for him.
When he brought his two better looking friends to join the girls, he’s telling them indirectly that he’s comfortable and confident enough and he’s not worried about introducing better looking guys to them.
Besides that, this guy also proved that pickup lines are not a must when you approach girls. He used a simple, “Hi!” before introducing himself. So, here’s proof that you don’t have to memorize fancy pick up lines in order to be successful in picking up girls.
A hot girl get hit on all the time especially when she is out clubbing. Therefore she would probably have heard most of the pick up lines before. So, it defeats the purpose of memorizing pick up lines. They lack originality and when it’s pre-rehearsed, it would likely sound cheesy when you deliver it!
What is more important is the ability to sustain the conversation without boring her. Our guy here not only kept the conversation going, he made her laugh. Dude, that is so important! Laughing releases pheromones… the feel good hormone that would invariably make her feel attraction for you. Make her laugh and you’ll have her eating out of your hands!
In short, confidence is the all important trait that you should possess in order to be successful with girls. On top of that, the ability to sustain a conversation is more important than the opener when you approach a girl. A killer opener will mean nothing if you can’t keep her interested in the conversation.
David Kwan
