I’m sure you’ve heard the term Alpha Male before. Some guys associate this term with the animal kingdom: the bad-ass lion or monkey that rules over the others and gets first crack at the food and the most desirable females.
For other guys, the term Alpha Male has a negative meaning. It means the football captain who used to swagger around their campus, intimidating the underclassmen and snatching all the hot chicks.
Or, you might have an Alpha Male in your workplace: a “man’s man” who radiates confidence and energy, and always gets what he’s after. He might be a pain in the ass to work for, but you gotta respect the guy.
Either way, most guys suffer under the belief that some of us are born as Alpha Males, and the rest of us are doomed to be “shy guys” or “nice guys” who can only have the leftovers.
How To Become An Alpha Male
But the truth is, we’ve all got an Alpha Male inside of us. Right now I want to give you three quick tips on displaying your Alpha side ( alpha male behavior and alpha male traits )
These come from recent experiences in my life…
#1 Displaying your Alpha Male side means showing confidence and charm with men AND women. Always expand your social network! This is SO important…
Look, I’ve seen lots of guys who study “pickup” and become more successful with talking to women, yet they continue to feel intimidated or hostile towards other guys – especially guys who they think are better-looking or cooler than they are, or guys who are getting more attention from females.
I know that when you go out, the main goal is to meet girls, but making new friendships with “Alpha” guys is going to help your long-term game. Make this a habit: when you’re at a bar, club, or party — and you see guys who have cool, positive energy and are having a good time (and getting attention from women) — introduce yourself to them.
Walk up to the coolest-looking dude in the room and tell him, “Bro, I’m impressed. The girls into you, what’s your secret?”
There is a 90% chance that he will shake your hand, want to know you, and now you’ve got this guy as a friend and wingman.
As you expand your network of Alpha wingmen, the social benefits are huge. These guys will invite you to bars, parties, etc. that you didn’t know about. They might know girls they want to hook you up with. And when you’re hanging out with your Alpha friends in social environments, you have automatic “social proof” in the eyes of women. When women see you hanging with these guys, it shows that you have high social value.
If you normally go to the same old bars, with the same old friends of yours (the guys who DON’T approach women), it’s time for you to “upgrade” and start hanging out with some guys who are super-social and give you extra motivation.
#2 My second quick tip is that you need to be decisive. Don’t be wishy-washy. Women respect men who lay out a path for them to follow. It may sound chauvinistic, but it’s true. She doesn’t really want you to ask her opinion on where to eat, where to go for a drink, what movie to go see…you’re actually making her a bit uncomfortable when you show indecisive behavior. Women need to feel that their man is emotionally strong and able to provide security and protection.
Whenever there is a decision to be made, YOU need to step up and express how you think it should go. Even if it’s as minor as deciding where to go eat or have coffee. She might not always agree, but she will respect the fact that you have a definite opinion.
WEAK MOVE: “Um, if you’re not busy, maybe we could hang out sometime and do something…”
ALPHA MOVE: “Tell me your favorite romantic comedy, and I’ll rent it — we’ll watch it Friday night at my place while I cook dinner for us.”
Or, “You mentioned you love Italian food. I know about an Italian restaurant that most people around here aren’t aware of, and I want to show it to you. I’ll pick you up on Friday at seven o’clock.”
#3 My other tip is, leave them wanting more. The top Alpha Males – whether it’s a business mogul, or a Hollywood star – are very busy people. They’re not going to grant you endless amounts of their time. Take the same attitude with women. YOU want to be the one ending the conversation first, whether it’s a conversation at a bar, or a phone call to set up a date.
The average guy will talk…and talk…until the woman finally says, “I have to go find my friend” or “it’s was nice talking to you, but I need to be up early tomorrow…” As an Alpha Male, you must ALWAYS have a goal in mind when you converse with a woman, and achieve that goal before the conversation ends.
At a bar, the goal might be to get her phone number and email address. Or, if you’re calling her on the phone, the goal could be to establish when you’re going to see her next. The bottom line is, you’ve got to have a plan, a strategy, and a way to execute it.
NEVER drag it out to the point where she has to leave first. She’ll assume you’ve got nothing else going on in your life. When YOU end it first, you leave her wondering… “hmm, he isn’t like most guys I’ve met. What else is going on in his life? What other girls is he seeing? Why is he always too busy to talk on the phone?”
Nice. That’s EXACTLY where you want her.
Dean Cortez
Women Persuasion Secrets
