Dating women is simple. Very very very simple. All of the advice that you hear regarding clothes, appearance and their psyche are relevant, but they aren’t the point. You have to ask yourself one question “Do I like women?”. WHAT you say??? Of course I goddamn like women!!! Ah.. But do you really? Do you LIKE them.. Sure you might want to sleep with them, but do you actually like them. Do THEY make YOU laugh? Do you have fun with women? Do you feel you can talk to them about stuff inside you? Many men DON’T like women (so don’t feel left out). Most men LIKE THEIR MALE FRIENDS!!!! That’s who they are most comfortable with, can share with etc..
So my advice is.. Starting thinking about ALL women as people.. Stop trying to have sex with them and you’ll have all the fun you ever dreamt of..
Stop feeling insecure about big “beautiful” men – they bore women to death.. Sure some can sleep with a woman with one look, but that’s mostly in the movies.. They have no currency with women – they’re just nice to look at.
Another thing: Your voice.. Oh yes, your voice is an EXCEPTIONALLY powerful force for women.. women respond EXCESSIVELY to a good voice.. What’s a good voice? A voice of command and confidence, a mellow, reasoned voice. Doesn’t have to be deep or anything (definitely not OILY!), just sure of itself..
Picking up a seriously beautiful woman: They are the easiest to pick up. Beautiful woman live in a world of either shy stumbling men or slick oily horrible men. They can be very lonely even sitting with some fancy rich guy, they can be quite depressed. They are VERY ORDINARY women, they get blotchy, they go for a crap, they worry about their weight and how they look. They need company.
To pick one up: If you see a beauty on her own somewhere, go over to her and be strong and VERY SERIOUS. Ask her is she ok? Don’t smile, don’t fidget and stammer, just present a calm even demeanor, as if you were an uncle or her father. Put some goddamn authority into your voice. It doesn’t matter if she tells you to get lost, because you shouldn’t care. Remember – you have to FEEL concern or you won’t project it – she’s a PERSON! When she says “I’m fine thank you”, say “Well that’s good, you looked a little sad/nervous/unhappy and I was concerned.” Don’t apologies and explain too much. Don’t say she looked abandoned (that’s insulting). TALK to her… you’re mind won’t go blank if you’re actually interested. Think of her as your sister or something. Then “Well would you like to talk for a little while? I’ll run away if someone comes along. I think I can just about slot you in”. Say it matter of fact and strongly. (That last bit is supposed to be fun.. make up your own stuff.) If you project strength, she’ll take you seriously. Women responded very well to authority. If she smiles, smile back a tiny bit. DON’T SMILE TOO EARLY – IT’S CREEPY. If she starts to look at you as a weirdo, then and only then say (strongly and a TINY bit pissed off) “Oh look, I apologies. I’m not picking you up, ok? If you’d like to talk, I can listen well and I have the time”. See how it works – you’re being confident. Your projecting self-belief without being oily (smiling). Oh and ALWAYS look at her directly and unshakingly. Direct looking is both honest, confident and a sexual trigger. Don’t be afraid to look at her. Yes, her face is beautiful, but you don’t have to be trance by it. I guarantee she won’t be used to it except from exceptionally powerful men and will be slightly (and pleasantly taken aback)
If you get to talk to her: Be COMPLETELY honest. Curb the male instinct to know everything!!!! We men ALWAYS think we know everything and it’s boring. Women are much better at talking and frankly they love doing it. If you start to glaze over and don’t care about what she’s saying, then leave her to someone else because you don’t deserve to be with her. Remember this phrase: “No… I don’t understand… tell me more”… that’s the best thing you can ever say to a woman. She won’t think you’re stupid if you discuss what she says interestedly. After a while, loosen up and BE YOURSELF. If she doesn’t like the real you, that’s that, but no harm done. But the REAL you are subtly very attractive. Everyone can detect “realness”.
Don’t listen to your male friends’ advice, you sexually compete with even your friends, so it’s always suspect. Be yourself. Being slick is for kids. You’re not James Bond. Get over it.
Basically, if you’re not interested in what a woman has to say, you should go back home and play video games because you’re not worth the effort. Grow up and stop feeling sorry for yourself. You ARE a good person and you’re a man. Your weakness is your fear of yourself.
Oh… and about sex: Women like command. They don’t like it in their daily lives. They love it in bed. Be a man. Be assertive. Most women love a little bit of caveman (not he-man!! big difference). They’ll accept it from ANYONE!!! A little bit of serious “do what you’re told, girl” gets many a strong woman going. (p.s. in case you’re really stupid: this does NOT mean violence)
Have fun… Women are people too…
Submitted by M. Kelp
