I find this topic fascinating because the various ways to grab a woman’s attention quickly don’t NECESSARILY have to do with your looks. If you do dress uniquely, you have a very good chance of standing out from the crowd.
However, if you do physically stand out from the crowd (whether it be how you dress, what you have on, or some genetic characteristic like height or bug muscles), you still need to know how to communicate with the woman to ensure she doesn’t place you in the category with all the other guys out there! In other words, if you act like a total wussie with the woman, she will be gone in a heartbeat !
Thus, after you capture her attention, you MUST be capable of keeping her attention. The way to do that is with your communication and your personality. You don’t always need physical characteristics, wild tattoos of flames or barb wire, a new flashy sports car, or fancy, outlandish clothes (like a multi-colored, neon Hawaiian shirt) to get her attention, although these help. However, it is far more important to use your personality to attract her and keep her attracted. Having these superficial objects CAN get your foot in the door, but it’s your personality that KEEPS you in the house!
How are some ways we can get her attention you ask ?
Well, I will start by being blunt but truthful about something. Most men are wussies when it comes to meeting women. They sit back and hope some woman will come along and drop in his lap and make all the moves for him. We’ve ALL been there haven’t we? Unfortunately, these type of men rarely get laid and often remain single most of their lives. They lack confidence and self-esteem, both of which are turn-offs to women. Since approximately 98% of the males in the world fall into that category, you can stand out from the crowd of wussie men by MAKING A MOVE! That was easy wasnt it ?
Think about yourself for a moment and many of your guy friends. Most of them probably see a woman they’d like to meet and sit back saying “Wow, she’s beautiful, I would love to get a piece of that”, or “I’d do anything to be with her”, or they fantasize about what they’d like to do with her but they rarely ever make a move! It’s safe to say that the MASS majority of men behave in this manner. Thus, women desire a man that will have the confidence and the balls to make a move and take that risk of her rejecting you. So few men will actually be bold enough to approach a woman (especially ones he doesn’t know), strike up a conversation, and move in for the digits or the phone number.
Doing this exact process can give women the feeling they have been “Swept off their feet”. This is also what women want you to do! However, very FEW guys actually do this. They fear women. You will almost INSTANTLY stand out from the other guys by making the moves! Besides, this is what women WANT you to do! This doesn’t just include making the move to ask for her number. This also includes asking her for a date, holding hands for the first time, and initiating sex. All of these are what MOST guys are afraid to do out of fear of rejection. However, by taking that risk and making the moves, you are nearly guaranteed to be different from most guys in her eyes. In other words, don’t become another wuss! She’s probably sick to death of guys that behave like that !
Another way of grabbing her attention with her personality is to NOT kiss her ass and try to kiss up to her. Again, many guys do this and it turns them off. A way to do this is to make fun of her. That is the opposite of what guys do. They respond to this type of behavior almost instantly. If she has an accent, mock her about it. If she’s insecure about something then make fun of it (I’ve known some women to say they are afraid of the dark, so I don’t hesitate to laugh at them and make fun of them). If you find anything she is insecure about, it’s time to bust on her and make her your entertainment! This is especially powerful when used on beautiful women (mainly the 9’s and 10’s). They are SO USED to men kissing their ass and becoming their slaves. This makes them sick.
A better way to get her attention is to find something artificial about her and poke fun at it. For example, she may have fake nails, fake boobs, fake eyelashes, or fake hair. You can always make fun of it. “Ok, so what part of you is REAL? I hear most beautiful women’s personalities are fake also!” works great for me! Tell her that and see what kind of reaction you get. She’ll be trying her hardest to show you she DOES have a personality! Or you can say “What’s the matter? Cant grow your own nails?” or you can say “I bet if someone pulled your hair, some girl somewhere else will scream!” (indicating her hair is store-bought and someone else’s human hair!). And I love when women break their nails or she gets worried that her makeup is running. I’d mock her and say “Oh, my goodness! I broke a nail (or my make up is running)! My life is over now! I’m sooo ugly now! Boo Hoo!”. And I’d fake cry just like she does. It’s so much fun!
Mocking women and making fun of them not only is fun, but it seperates you from the other guys that kiss up to them and try to kiss her ass. The idea is to stand out from the crowd, not become the crowd. If you act like all the other guys, eventually, you will simply blend into the rest of them and become a huge blob or mass of wussie guys, which is what she is NOT looking for! She knows already she’s beautiful because every guy has told her that! She’s probably tired of hearing it! Better to be different and stand out from the crowd! Be leader or a student, not a follower!
Another method along these same lines is mocking her mannerisms and her slang (if she uses it). Even if she talks proper, you can make fun of that also! I’d mock the way she walks, her gestures, or her even her intelligence level. After you say something she didn’t know about “You didnt know that? You sure you graduated kindergarden? :)”
This next technique works well on the more beautiful women but can work on all women. It’s the method of using “Reverse Psychology” on them. You are saying you don’t want something but you really do. This is a method of “getting her” to chase you and prove herself to you. It is important to note that if you behave in such a way that says “I am the prize and you, the woman must earn me” (not the other way around) then your value increases in her eyes dramatically. On to the reverse psychology issue, you can say “I don’t want to have to sex with you. You probably wouldn’t be able to handle it!” (“WOW!!! All men want to have sex with me!” She thinks. “This guy is…different!” Immediately you’ve got her attention!) Not only do you get her attention you become an instant challenge! Women should always be on the chase…not you!
However, the key to making this work is to say you don’t want sex, but to continue to pursue her sexually subtly and by using sexual innuedos. We’ll discuss that in a moment. Or some women will say “All guys want me, or I know you want me, etc.” The way to burst her bubble of arrogance is to say “Why would I want to have sex with you?” Or “Why would I want to be with you?” Or “What if you’re no good in bed? Just cause guys want you doesn’t mean you’re good at it!” Again, this makes her prove herself to you!
Throwing sexual innuedos and flirting with her go hand in hand and they are important for making sure you don’t land in the “friends-zone” with women. Ways to flirt include winking at her, smiling, making eye contact, flattering her (pointing out something about her that most guys miss like a nice smile or being intelligent, etc.), and even waving at her. It takes a level of confidence to flirt and confidence is attractive. By flirting you show your interest, but subtly. If you do not flirt, then you risk entering the friends zone. Throwing “sexual innuedos” means making hints at sex through normal conversation. For example, if she ever uses the words “Do it” even if she’s talking about something totally unrelated, you can say “Do it? But we just met!” Or “You want to do it here? I didnt know you were into doing it in public!” Or “You want to do it? I see where your mind is and I thought us men were bad! See, you women are the same way!” Watching out for that “Do it” phrase can be very fun to use! Another way is to say “If you keep being nice to me like this, you might get lucky, so you better watch out!”. Or “Just because you are sweet, and funny, and nice doesn’t mean I’m going to sleep with you!” Again, you want to make it known that YOU ARE a sexual person. Don’t try to hide it no matter what anyone says! A few sexual innuedos here and there and she’ll get the idea. Don’t overdo it though!
If you ever go to far with a joke, you can water it down by saying “I’m just teasing you” Or “don’t get so uptight! If you’re one day to fall hopelessly in love with me, then you’re going to have to take a joke! I like a woman with a sense of humor!” or “Don’t be such a cold fish. Loosen up and have some fun!” Also, if a woman does or says something you don’t like, it’s always fun to act as if you already in a relationship. For instance, saying “Well, our relationship isn’t working out! I’m breaking up with you and I’m cutting off the sex!” in a funny tone. Or if she says something you don’t like (even if you’re joking) you can say “Ah man, and I wanted a woman that was funny (or sexy, or sweet, or whatever else you can think of)!” It’s alright to use these with women you’ve just met. The sooner you seperate yourself from the average guy, the better! Communicating this way is also fun and interesting. Also, using these techniques, you stand a great chance of avoiding the dreaded friends zone.
Remember, act like a friend (or the average guy) and a friend you will become…always and forever!
Grabbing her attention is just a matter of seperating yourself from the crowd. It’s best to use your personality to accomplish this as artificial objects can never keep a woman attracted to you. If you have those artificial things (nice car, fancy clothes, wild tattoos, big muscles, tall in height, etc.), then use them to your advantage by all means! The point is that they are not necessary for having success. REAL success comes from your personality and your communication. You can GRAB and KEEP a woman’s attention by the way you communicate. It is also worth mentioning that your voice tone is important. Don’t use light, soft, or squeaky voices. Always talk from your chest to make your voice deeper when speaking. Also, speak with authority and with volume. Don’t mumble and don’t stumble over your words. When dealing with women, we cant leave body language out of the equation. Always remember to stand upright (don’t slump or slouch), stick that chest out, and maintain eye contact with her at all time. This shows confidence which is highly necessary. Also, women pick up on body language a lot better than we do.
Remember, women your choice of words and your method of communication (ie: flirting) go a LOT further than anything else when it comes to women!
Lightning (Gerald A. Toliver)
