The biggest mistake most men make is that they walk around waiting for a hot girl to talk to. In reality, by waiting for that hot girl, they’re not creating any energy around them.
What you need to do is to start talking to people in every store that you go into. You need to talk to people there and remember things about them.
For instance, we were hanging out and we went into this sunglasses store. I’ve been in this store probably 10 times, and I’ve bought two pairs of sunglasses from there. When I walked in, both people working there immediately said hello to me and came right over.
The salespeople were treating the person I was with really well also, talking to him and being really nice. When he bought something, they gave him a discount. He got a discount because he knew me. Just knowing me is not always necessarily going to get you a discount, but since I had been there before and always been really nice, friendly, and I asked questions about them, they wanted to give him a discount.
When I walk into a place, people are going to stop and talk to me. The great thing about that is that everywhere you go, you start getting friendly with people. If you go to the supermarket, get friendly with the person behind the cash register – it’s very important! Get friendly with the person that makes your sandwiches. Get friendly with the person that pours your coffee.
The reason for this is that there will be a time in your life when you are going to see a woman that you are attracted to, and you’re going to have approach anxiety. You’ll just have one of those days where you’re not feeling that comfortable with yourself – or maybe not feeling all that secure. So what do you do in that situation?
It is so much easier to talk to somebody you already know. For instance, let’s say you in line at the grocery store, and there’s a woman behind you that’s really cute and she’s got you feeling tongue-tied – you know that feeling you get when your tongue is tied and you can’t undo it?
So what do you do? You talk to the person who you know – you talk to Joe, the guy who’s scanning your groceries and you remember things about him. You say, “hey, Joe, how’s the newborn treating you?” All of a sudden Joe says, “wow, it’s been really tough.” You might say, “have you been having trouble sleeping?” All of a sudden Joe starts laughing – and you’ve bonded with Joe.
Most of life is very non-verbal. So the woman standing behind you sees the way that Joe is looking at you, and it’s very favorable. She sees the way his eyes are lighting up, the smile on his face – what that is telling her is that this guy in front of her in line at the supermarket is a nice guy.
What happens then is that you start meeting people based on your energy, but the key lesson here is that you start attracting people. You’re not chasing women anymore – you’re attracting them.
I’ve written about this before, in a lot of blogs – be the mayor of your life, be in complete control of your life, create powerful energy in your life – but this is something that you need to be doing over and over again.
The key to meeting people is engaging everybody in conversation, becoming memorable, and attracting people to you, rather than spending your entire life chasing.
I go deeper into this in today’s video – How to Create Your Own Party
