Contrary to popular opinion, women do like nice guys.
What they don’t like is guys who let women walk all over them. They don’t want a doormat and they don’t want a supplicating fool. Women walk all over nice guys because nice guys let them do it.
Women want to be treated like ladies, with respect and adoration, but they don’t know what to do when they are treated that way. They are simply not wired to expect this sort of treatment from a man who could be a potential mate. It’s not the type of behavior that arouses them. In fact, it has the opposite affect. But that doesn’t mean you need to be a “bad boy” or jerk to get what you want, it just means that you have to show women that you cannot be walked all over. It means you DON’T supplicate yourself with a woman. Think of it like a reward system. In order for you to do something nice for her, she MUST first do something nice for you. Not the other way around.
The following example to explain the reward system :
You’re at a club/bar/whatever and see an attractive woman sitting/standing alone waiting to pick up her drink or basically not doing anything. Move in and say “If you buy me a drink, I’ll let you kiss me.” Sure, it doesn’t work in all scenarios, and doesn’t work with all guys/women or personality types but if you dissect the problem, you’ll notice a few key things you’ve portrayed to her in a rather short comment:
You’re a man who knows what he wants and knows how to get it. You don’t supplicate by asking to buy her a drink. Instead, you suggest she buys YOU a drink. You’re telling her that you’ll “reward” her, but only if she provides you with something you want. The “reward” is actually something you want but it doesn’t come off that way. You’re fun and daring.
Once in a while, some woman will actually take you up on the offer and not only do you turn the game around, but other women at the club/bar/whatever will notice this (without knowing what you said to her) and their own interest will be enhanced, opening up more opportunities.
An average chump, on the other hand, will usually awkwardly hang around the bar wand wait to find women who they can offer to buy drinks for.
Losers, Supplicators, “Nice guys.” They’re the first to get stepped on, used, then ignored, and the last to get laid. These guys will call getting laid “getting lucky” because that’s what it takes for them to successfully seduce a woman – luck.
Contributed by Nathan
