When I was about 11 years old, I had a mad crush on a local gal by the name of Paula. She was the most adorable thing on 2 skinny legs that you could imagine. I was completely smitten with her, even though I knew she was a bit obnoxious, and she also knew she was pretty.
I remember clearly talking to her on the phone one night, just chatting and flirting in that kid way. She stopped in the middle of some sentence and said, “And you know that I want to go out with you, right?” (Back then, kids just jumped right to “going out” with each other.)
I think my heart stopped in my chest right there. A girl – not just ANY girl, but a HOT girl – wanted to date ME! That feeling that rushes through your blood at that age is like no other in the world. (Which leads to some highly charged associations, which I’ll come to in a minute.)
I agreed that I’d meet her at her bus the next day, and we both got off the phone a minute or two later.
I felt like I could fly. I imagined kissing her and being able to hold her hand. There was no feeling closer to heaven that I could imagine at that moment.
I found it hard to sleep that night. The next day, school took FOREVER. (She went to a different school, but lived in my apartment complex.) I counted down the minutes of each class in a daze. I must have seemed like a complete delirious fool with a wide grin that I couldn’t shake. I couldn’t do any of the classwork because my mind was on Paula. Paula, Paula, Paula!
By the time the day ended, I still had the bus ride home. And then there was a short wait for her bus to get there, since she got home about a half hour later. I imagined her jumping off the bus and into my arms.
FINALLY her bus did arrive, and I ran to greet it. She got off with her girlfriend, and I noticed that she didn’t seem to have that same sense of anticipation that I did. She was more into chatting with her friend. I walked them both back to her apartment, and along the way, she pulled the rug out from under me.
“You know I was joking about that on the phone last night, right?” she said. My stomach fell out from inside me and my heart seemed to stop dead in my chest.
“Uh, sure,” I replied feebly. It killed me on the inside, but I didn’t let her see it on the outside. Still, Paula smiled at me, as if she knew what she’d done, and made an “awwwww” sound, then gave me a peck on the cheek as she went off with her friend.
I remember the emotions of that day as clearly as if it were yesterday.
I tell you this story to illustrate just how men’s attitudes towards women (and theirs towards us) are formed from an EARLY age.
Think about what both she and I learned (at a very primal level) :
- She learned that she can manipulate men as she pleases. She even derived a bit of enjoyment learning how her one statement had impacted me. She learned that men are easily enticed and controlled.
- I learned that women APPEAR to hold the upper hand in all things dealing with relationships. In fact, I learned that they took a certain sick satisfaction and glee in this control. I also learned how dis-empowered I felt during the whole thing, and that she so easily manipulated my emotions.
This was long before I discovered that I am the only one responsible for how I feel. Other people do not make us feel anything, it’s OUR OWN interpretations of them that affect us.
But unfortunately, most of our early references are formed during this period where we hand over too much control to women for how we feel. Most typically in the case of men who are more sensitive and intelligent.
I’ll bet that every single guy out there can trace back to an incident or two like this. And I can almost guarantee that how you interpreted what happened has colored your experience with women ever since.
You see, these experiences also come with a high emotional price to pay. Those feelings you have as a kid are very highly charged. As a result, they tend to form some very STRONG neuro-associative conditioning in your brain. In other words, the power of these experiences on your developing experience of women is increased by a factor of ten or more. You form incredibly strong beliefs based on those experiences.
And many of those beliefs are WRONG.
The reason you need to look back at this in your life and do a little analysis (don’t worry, I won’t ask you to lay on the couch and tell me about your childhood) is that this experience has either left you in an empowered and in-control state with women (rare) or it has left you with a certain amount of conditioned fear of women (most common) that needs to be destroyed.
That’s what the Seduction Method does for you. It takes back that control we lost to girls when they started to realize they had a power over us – sexual power.
