Don’t go for young girls, this is obvious. No matter how cute or sexy they are, forget it. If you want a fling ok, if you want long term, move on to someone more mature.
Don’t do the Internet dating thing.
You’re left to the mercy of #1 the dating service company
#2 the girls who check out your ad and
#3 there is no challenge in this kind of thing, you don’t learn anything significant about yourself or about someone else, and finally
#4 you’re paying your money to these companies that take advantage of your loneliness!
In fact, avoid the whole “personal ad” gimcrack. Why? -Because most women on these personal ads are society’s leftovers. They are either really old or have problems or been divorced 5 times or horridly unattractive, plainly put, they’re women that are waiting to burden their problems onto you. So be warned. Frankly, I am repulsively astonished at how these dating services get so popular these days.
Don’t talk about your previous relationships. And if you must talk about it, do so to the effect that you are happy that you’ve moved on and got rid of them.
Don’t apologize for anything. Ah this is a really subtle one. Some guys say “sorry this” and “sorry that” all the time as if they think they’re being sensitive as if this might impress the girl. Don’t do that. She would only think you’re a weakling. In fact, don’t even use the word “sorry” in your conversations with her. Example, if you accidentally kicked her foot say something like, “hey what’s that doing there, trying to trip me?” give her a smile and continue with the conversation. Unless you really f**ked it up, otherwise don’t apologize for anything.
Don’t use credit card-bust out the CASH! Yeah! Save the credit card for something else. When you take her out to dinner and the bill arrives, smack down that BIG FAT $100 bill on the plate without even looking at the bill. That will kill her right that. Try to do this with some character and flare and don’t be cheeky or silly. And always remember to leave tip, don’t be excessive, but show respect to those who served you.
Don’t keep buying her drinks. Buy her 3 drinks at most, and if she wants more she should buy it herself or buy it for you in return. And when you detect that she’s getting a bit tipsy or drunk even don’t just to take advantage of her right there. That’s foolish to do. Tell her that she’s drunk and should stop drinking. She will of course say that’s not true, she’s not drunk. Act really concerned and don’t show your wiggling little tail coming out of their pants! Say that you ought to take her home and ask where she lives. Then she’ll say, “I don’t wanna go home”. Tell her you really think she needs some fresh air and take her outside to your CAR of course. But if she says, “yes I think I better go home.” Then you offer to drive her since she’s drunk and all. And the rest, if you can’t that figure out….well that’s too bad.
Never ever tell a woman that you “love her”, before you kissed her, or before you had sex with her. That is a deadly mistake. You want to stretch the suspense as long as possible because it is exactly what she wants to hear. The more you hold off the more likely she’ll stick around to get it out of you. You can hint at it and say around these flowery words to point at it but don’t ever say that 3 words, it’s like the signature sign by your own blood on the contact to the devil for your soul.
Finally, during a conversation with a girl and she keeps asking which girl do you like and she starts to list and name all these women out to you, get up and say good-bye and leave her the bill to pay. If a woman likes you she won’t “direct” your attention to someone else, especially some other woman. This is another one of their subtle subterfuges. You might think that she’s only trying to get an understanding of what kind of woman you like, no no no, my good friends. If she’s seriously interested in you she’ll ask you plainly something like, “so what qualities about a woman do you look for?” And not, “do you like Melissa, do you think Lisa’s hot, what do you think about Jessica, etc, etc”. Differentiate between this subtlety and you’ll do fine friends.
David Kwan
